I can’t remember ever once having a conversation with my parents about homosexuality when I was growing up. It just wasn’t an issue that I had to confront. That’s not to say that there weren’t kids in my school who were living that lifestyle; I’m fairly certain they were. It’s just that they didn’t make it public, so I didn’t know it. It wasn’t a hot topic in TV, movies, and the media, either. And we sure never gave one thought to this
Today is different. Our kids see homosexual couples in the hallways at school. They see words like “bisexual” and “transgender” in a word find in a middle school problem solving class. Their television shows nearly always include gay characters. They watch people tweet views on the politics of same-sex marriage on Twitter. They have friends who are gay.
Homosexuality is in our towns, our schools, our neighborhoods, and even in our churches. Whether we want it to be an issue our kids deal with or not, it is. So what do we do to guide them as they do?
Model Christ’s love. The symbol itself is a great talking point. We don’t have to agree with homosexuality or the legalization of same-sex marriage to love people like Jesus did. The truth is, there is spiritual equality: on the very same day Jesus died for your sins, He died for the sins of every gay person. Our kids will learn how to view and treat other people from the way we view and treat other people.
But don’t dance around the truth in God’s Word. It’s not popular to stand for God’s truth above culture, and it’s going to get less popular with time. But we cannot expect our kids to stand on God’s Word as truth if we don’t teach it to them. Homosexuality is sin. God’s design for marriage is for one man and one woman, for life.
Be picky about what you watch. I don’t get why we laugh about people who are drunk or high, and I don’t get why we laugh about people who are gay. Maybe it’s because we don’t know how to respond. But here’s the thing – sin isn’t funny. When we allow it into our homes as comedy, because our kids are “old enough to handle it,” we’re minimizing God’s authority in our lives and in theirs.
Encourage healthy opposite-sex friendships. It’s okay for your teenager to not have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Don’t push your kids into dating or physical relationships because you’re afraid they might turn out gay if you don’t. When we indicate that we believe every friendship our kids have should be romantic, we put pressure on them that they don’t need.
Encourage healthy same-sex friendships. These days, teenage guys can’t even have close friendships without other guys calling them gay. There’s something very wrong about that. Guys need other guys and girls need other girls. Healthy same-sex friendships are one of God’s greatest blessings. Give your kids plenty of opportunities to cultivate and enjoy them.
Note: Not trying to make a political statement today. Thursday posts are for parents; specifically, parents who want to raise their kids according to the standards God set in His Word. With that in mind, I get to moderate comments, and don’t plan to post any today that have any other agenda in mind. Thanks for reading!