When your kids start dating – 6 tips for parents

You have to be impressed with a boy who brings you Chick-fil-A when he shows up at your house to see your daughter. The kid’s got moxie.

Actually, he works at Chick-fil-A, which if you think about it, in terms of the teen years, it’s kinda like Abby is dating a man of the cloth. I like to think it’s God’s way of gently helping me into this new phase of life. It’s like He’s saying, “See Cynthia? Waffle fries. It’s going to be alright.”

On the other hand, it could very well be a brilliant scheme by Satan himself to get me off-balance. I imagine Eddie Haskell would have shown up with bag in hand if there had been such a thing as a Chick-fil-A drive thru in the 1950s. eddie haskell copy

I feel like I have my feet under me. The eldest has given us lots of practice. Still, the whole dating thing can be tough on a mom and dad. Since it’s List Wednesday, I thought we could explore a few parental do’s and don’ts:

Don’t follow her on social media for at least two months. This is part etiquette, part common sense. If you add the new girl on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram too quickly, it could send the wrong message, like you’re super creepy. But also I’m just trying to save you the awkwardness of unfollowing her in a couple of weeks when they decide they aren’t going to date each other after all.

Do take advantage of technology. I said don’t follow; I didn’t say don’t look. You can learn a lot about a person by his bio, pictures, and tweets. It’s modern-day due diligence and helps to make sure @straightouttasodom never sets foot in your house.

Don’t get too involved. If you’re helping plan dates and searching Pinterest for the most spectacular promposals, you’re probably headed for trouble. It shouldn’t be an emotional event in your life or an entire afternoon of deleting pictures from your phone when they break up. More importantly, a kid can’t think or see clearly to know if he should end things with someone if it feels like he’d be breaking up with an entire family.

Do ask the right questions. I have found, “Does she go to church?” and “Does she love God?” to be inefficient. But with, “Does she love Jesus?” we’re getting somewhere. Especially if you follow it up with a casual, “Like Oprah might love Jesus or…”

Don’t let my use of the word “dating” confuse you. I only used it for good writing flow. No one really dates anymore. They “talk” (text virtually nonstop), and they “hang out,” which means sometimes the entire relationship runs its course before you even knew it was a thing.

Do find out if he reads your blog. Because if he does, you might need to apologize for that “scheme of Satan” comment and Eddie Haskell meme you made. Maybe get him a milkshake from Chick-fil-A to break the ice as you attempt to explain it was really all just in good fun.

Digiprove sealCopyright secured by Digiprove © 2015 Cynthia Hopkins

Next Post
Previous Post

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *